1. I don't want a judge deciding what custody and parenting time should be. Can my spouse and I decide this?
It is possible to keep control over the outcome of custody and parenting time if you and your spouse are able to agree on these issues, for example, in family law mediation or another non-adversarial mode. If not, then a judge makes the ultimate decision as to what he or she feels is in the best interest of your children, which may not be what you would have chosen.