1. I was thinking about waiving child support. Is this possible?
You can certainly agree to set the current child support amount to zero. However, if child support is an obligation under California law (consult with an attorney for more inforamtion), it is not waivable. This means that, most of the time, either party can request that the court issue "guideline" child support.
2. I'm not the one bringing my kids to the childcare provider, so I shouldn't pay, right?
It doesn't matter who is bringing the children to childcare. Typically, both parents share in this expense, regardless of who actually brings the children to the childcare.
3. I'm feeling very nervous and upset. I am the higher earner between my spouse and me, and I'm going to have to pay spousal support for the rest of my life....Right?
Not necessarily. There are many factors that impact duration of spousal support. You should speak to a family law attorney to investigate this question.